Why can’t I be more of a quitter? There are days I really
want to desert this road to publication. The
temptation to bail hits me hard. I
convince myself I’m not cut out for the life of a writer.
Things get particularly daunting when I have to make the
difficult decision to move on from an agent, or a close friend receives a
drool-worthy offer, or I read my stuff and seriously consider shredding it and
feeding it to the dog.
Eventually, a powerful message rises to the surface and riptides
my thoughts.
You aren’t a soccer
player but you are a writer.
Now, if you’ve visited my blog much, you know I’m far from a
mathematician and you might be scratching your head trying to work out the
logic behind what I just wrote. There isn’t an A + B = X (or whatever) equation
that makes sense of the soccer player/writer sentence. There’s just life.
Let me explain.
I played travel soccer for my entire childhood. I was a
teenager when I made the spontaneous decision to quit playing. I loved soccer.
I still love the sport and have a blast cheering on my kids when they play. I
can honestly say quitting soccer is one of the few regrets I have in life—regret
squared because I quit for the wrong reasons.
I took my eyes off of the most important thing—my experience with the sport. I stopped
playing because my older sister was better. I’m not making this up. She really
was. She was All-American, met Pele, got a full ride scholarship for her
skills, and eventually went on to play against Mia Hamm in college. She was a
soccer rock star. I was solid. And I should have stuck with it. For the love of
the sport. Sometimes I wonder what would have been. . .
Fast forward several decades and you have me, a writer, fiercely
dedicated to my craft, though still facing that familiar temptation to bow out.
It’s so easy to get sidetracked, believing others are better, garnering more
attention, that they have something I don’t. They do have something I don’t. And
I have something they don’t. The
stories inside me. In the way that only I can tell them.
Right at the moment when I feel like the biggest writer
schmuck on the planet, I tend to find some humor-filled way to immerse myself
in my current project. I coach myself in Star Wars talk, “Stay on target” or I Church
Lady-myself until I get in my word count, remembering all of the positive
affirmations that I’ve encountered along this Yellow Brick Road (paved with
flying monkey poop…it’s funny to me. Writers have a bit of an absurd and
well-timed ability to entertain ourselves. We’re alone a lot…it’s part of the
gig).
And when the humor wears off and the word count is complete and
I’m left with my Tilt-A-Whirl brain, I’m met with a choice. Day in. And day
out. Ride the self-doubts? Or hop off so I can get busy doing what I love?
I decide. Every day I decide.
I’m not a soccer player. But I am a writer.
*Pic is of me in my glory soccer days. P.S. It was the 80s.
That’s how everyone wore their shorts! ;-)