Friday, June 29, 2012

Moving Thoughts Friday

Every Friday I’m going to ask a question. The questions I choose might be ambiguous on purpose. The goal is to have you answer the question according to your beliefs, where you’re at in life or a circumstance that might have recently impacted you. The only thing I ask is that you provide an explanation for why you answered the way you did.

It’s my hope to understand you better through this and also to gain a greater understanding of humanity and how people make decisions.
Lately I’ve been thinking about the delicate balance between not caring what others think & caring what others think (as with most things, both can have positive and negative aspects). We all fall on a spectrum between caring too much and not caring at all, which of course varies depending on the situation, our confidence level, our investment, etc.

But I’m throwing this out for fodder today…
Where do you land on the spectrum between not caring & caring what others think? And of course, tell us why…



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**I’m taking a blogging hiatus next week. I’ll be mostly offline. See you in July! Happy 4th!

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

8 Adventure Moods I Get in and What They Reveal about Yours Truly


I have an adventurous spirit. Did you know that about me? Maybe not, but you could have guessed, right?

With this spirit I have moments when I get swept up in a certain frame of mind. I want to get out there and ________________.
Because I happen to enjoy reflecting, and I do it about as often as you check FB (ha, like that?), I took a closer look at what these moods might actually mean. What they might say about my current state. What would inspire me to want to run with the bulls, scuba dive, or sky dive?

And here’s what I came up with:
Mood to Whale Watch

I’m eager to see something big happen, something spectacular and memorable. I want to be front row center with binoculars for a better view. I’m anticipating God to move in an impressive way.
Mood to White Water Raft

Seen the movie Brave? Any thoughts? Okay, never mind that distraction for now, brave is what I’m feeling when I ache to hit the rapids. Brave and ready to navigate through the sharp turns in life. Prepared to use a little brain power and muscle to push through.
Mood to Go Up in a Hot Air Balloon

I’m craving to rise above my circumstances. Hot Air Balloon Mood kicks in when I want to see things from a unique perspective.
Mood to Speed in a Boat

There’s nothing the world like feeling air whooshing in and out of my lungs while reaching top notch speeds on a boat. It stirs life in me, reminds me how free I am, and almost always causing me to instinctively raise my hands to the sky. Soaring.
Mood to Hike

It’s in these moments I’m thirsty to accomplish something. I’m set to pace myself as I move toward a specific goal and I’m willing to work for it.
Mood to Run a (half) Marathon

Why do I get in these moods? Why? Why, I say. This is when I need a good test of my patience. My subconscious is reminding me all good things come to those who wait (and who run until their chest burns and they risk peeing on themselves at the end of the race).
Mood to Bushwhack through the Wilderness

This mood hits when I’m desperately in need of clearing out clutter in my life. Wish I could bushwhack through social media sometimes, as well as my thought life, and a slew of other intangibles.
Mood to Travel to the Ends of the Earth

I’m hankering connection with different cultures, willing to mix it up a little. I desire the varying landscapes of this earth to remind me how small I am.
Do you have an adventurous spirit? Ever think about why you get in the mood to do certain things?

*post inspired by conversation with Michelle DeRusha onTwitter
**photos by stock.XCHNG

Monday, June 25, 2012

Throwing in the Towel


Sweat-soaked and spent of energy, I toss my damp towel on top of a mountainous pile in the hamper labeled Towels.
“Excuse me. You can’t do that.” A lady rises from her hunched over position, where she was apparently conspicuously reading a novel. She picks my towel out of the pile and extends it out to me in her arms like an offering.
“Can’t do what?” I’m late and in no mood to argue.
“You can’t throw your towel in there.”
“Why not? It’s clearly marked towels. I’m throwing in the towel.”
She’s still holding my sweat-stained towel. “No can do.”
“But obviously many people have before me.”
“But they’re not you.”
Disgruntled, I scratch my neck, hoping to distract myself from the irritation crawling over my skin like ravenous red ants. I huff, “Who are you to tell me what I can and cannot do?”
“Take a guess.”
“Seriously? I’m done. I’ve worked out, put in my time. I’ve got nothing else to give, lady. And I’m not really in a guessing mood.”
She blinks. Suddenly, I notice something decipherable about her. Her unusual eye color and the twinkle reflecting off the stud jewel in her nose. “Okay, I’ll bite. You do look a little familiar.”
“Ha, that’s funny.”
“Care to tell me why?”
“Because you made me.”
“Okay, this has officially gotten weird. I’m throwing in the towel and taking off. Nice to chat.” I flip around. As my hand slaps the glass door marked Exit I’m flooded with recognition.
“I do know you.” I turn around to face the lady head on.
“Yep.”
“So why are you here, at this gym—by the towels?”
“I had a feeling you’d show up someday. You need me here now.”
“Are you going to spill your name or am I going to have to guess that, too?”
“That’s a little tricky.”
“Right. Tricky because…” I wait her out hoping she’ll fill in the blank.
“Because I’m all of ‘em.”
I stare at her unruly auburn hair, the sharp slope of her nose, even the way she’s standing, as though her hip might jump from its socket and she needs to hold it in place. She’s not kidding. “I didn’t know that was possible.”
“Neither did I—seeing you, that is. I confess I’m a little in awe of seeing you for the first time. I don’t know whether to thank you or to run from you. But instead of thanking or running, I think I’ll just give you this for now, then call it a day.” She pushes my towel into my hands. “It’s yours. You’re not finished yet. In fact, you’ve barely just begun. Now get out there and write me well.”
I press my face to the damp towel and rub my eyes, still shocked at our exchange. When I turn around to thank her she’s gone. But the enormous pile of towels has grown even higher. Surrendered stories. Writers who quit before their time.

Not me. Not today.

I intend to thank her after all, by honoring her request…to write, and write, and write her well.

Have you ever had an unexpected person remind you not to quit?

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Friday, June 22, 2012

Moving Thoughts Friday

Every Friday I’m going to ask a question. The questions I choose might be ambiguous on purpose. The goal is to have you answer the question according to your beliefs, where you’re at in life or a circumstance that might have recently impacted you. The only thing I ask is that you provide an explanation for why you answered the way you did.

It’s my hope to understand you better through this and also to gain a greater understanding of humanity and how people make decisions.

You meet up with a friend you haven’t seen in twenty years. As soon as you find her seated in the restaurant she slides you a note. It’s translated:

I’ve lost all recognition of the English language. But please, tell me about your life.

How would you respond?

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Wednesday, June 20, 2012

8 Tips to Propel Yourself Forward in Publishing

Respect the Mystery
Ever seen Toy Story? Remember the claw? This is how I like to think books get selected in the publishing industry. Randomly. Mysteriously. And instead of spending time badmouthing others, claiming I write Einstein compared to their Sponge Bob drivel, it’s better to respect the mystery.

Take timing, skills, market need, platform, and a little pixie dust and there you have it—the books that make it.

Take Care of Who You Know
You’ve heard the expression it’s all about who you know. Well, not exactly. It does nothing to know people for the sake of getting ahead, for crab-stepping over others on your way to the top. It doesn’t matter if you’ve befriended unpublished women who love to read or bestselling authors. No matter whom you come in contact with, treat them well. With kindness, respect. Heck, throw a little pixie dust on them. We all could use more of that.

Refuse to Believe it Won’t Happen (in other words Believe it Will)
I have absolutely no doubt my time is coming. I’m not a prophet. I’m not egotistical or unrealistic about my skill set. I often have days when I look at my work and cringe. But I work hard, refuse to quit, nurture a spirit of learning, and hold onto hope like an old lady does her purse. In fact, I often use hope to clobber lies over the head much like said old lady.

Polish up on Craft by Reading Books
Read well-written work. Read books on craft. Read to your kids. Read left. Read right. Read in the day. Read in the night. (Am I reminding anyone of Dr. Seuss’s The Foot Book?)

Invest in Time to Write & Be Willing to Sacrifice
Write. Write. Write. 'nough said.

Meet Face to Face
Go to conferences. I loved meeting my agent in person. I met her before she was my agent. I always think fact-to-face impressions improve your chances in this industry. A passion for your novel shows when you’re pitching it. Your ability to connect with others and care shines through in especially noticeable ways in person, too.

Reach Out
Send that random note raving to the author whose book you loved. Friend that writer on Facebook. Follow that editor on Twitter. What could it hurt? Take risks. Life is short.

Embrace a Spirit of Learning
Above all things (I write this because the publishing industry is ripe with moments for us to learn), embrace a spirit of learning. So much is turning on its head in this industry. Interactive books. Houses being gobbled up and bought out. Amazon (need I say more?). Self-publishing morphing from the red-headed stepsister into Cinderella. It’s worth it to pay attention, take notes, and keep an open mind. Recently I got put to the test on this. And I want to pass with flying colors.

What others ways can you think of to help propel yourself forward in publishing?
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Monday, June 18, 2012

Alice in Wonderland Starring as the Question Where


See Wendy. See Wendy’s brain. See Wendy’s brain play.
For the past few Mondays I’ve been playing with well-known stories from childhood, matching them up with a W question. Today Alice is Where…

Alice follows a rabbit down a rabbit hole. She finds a small key, and a bottle labeled “Drink Me”. Upon doing so she shrinks. Then she eats from a cake labeled “Eat Me” and grows until her head hits the ceiling.
Where is the queen of confusion. Without direction, Where is willing to dabble in all kinds of temptations.

Alice cries so hard and so much she swims through her own tears.
Where has a way of producing direction from within.

A crowd of animals gets caught up in the tear river with Alice. Dodo convinces them all the best way to dry off would be to run in circles. Alice frightens the animals away by talking about her cat.
Where can only tolerate running in circles for so long. She craves a firm destination. Sometimes Where has to talk her way through things.

The White Rabbit shows up frantic, looking for the Duchess’s gloves. He calls her Mary Ann and orders her inside where she grows again. Alice eats pebbles she mistakes as cakes and shrinks back again.
Where is influenced by what she intakes, all she allows herself to ingest.

Alice asks the Caterpillar who she is.
Where loses a sense of herself readily.

The Cheshire Cat appears directing Alice to the March Hare’s house. When the Cat disappears, his grin stays floating mid-air.
Where’s been known to seek out guidance from unusual and unexplainable creatures.

Alice is a guest at the Mad Tea-Party. Tired of riddles, she leaves the party.
Where likes to party. But Where also tires easily of shallow, pointless prattle.

Alice stumbles upon the Queen of Hearts who claims to hate white roses. She’s invited to play croquet with the queen—an encounter that amounts to nothing but chaos. The Queen goes around saying “Off with their head.”

Where isn’t always certain she’ll end up in a peaceful, non-combative place. Where is familiar with chaos.
Alice meets the Mock Turtle and the Gryphon.

Where has a tendency to wind around new bends and bump into all sorts of characters.
The Knave of Hearts is accused of stealing the Queen’s tarts. Alice grows larger during the hearing.

Where unpredictably gains confidence and grows into something unexpected.
Alice is called up as a witness. The Queen orders her gone b/c she’s too tall. She refuses to leave. The Queen yells “Off with her head!”

Where knows when to stand her ground.
Alice is unafraid to call them what they are—a pack of cards.

With miles of navigated terrain behind her, Where begins to learn to see things for what they are. She becomes fearless.
Alice’s sister wakes her up for tea. Alice leaves her sister on the bank.

Where knows when it’s time to move on.

"Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.” Psalm 139:7-10

Why do you think I chose Alice to star as Where?

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Friday, June 15, 2012

Moving Thoughts Friday

Every Friday I’m going to ask a question. The questions I choose might be ambiguous on purpose. The goal is to have you answer the question according to your beliefs, where you’re at in life or a circumstance that might have recently impacted you. The only thing I ask is that you provide an explanation for why you answered the way you did.

It’s my hope to understand you better through this and also to gain a greater understanding of humanity and how people make decisions.

Where do you begin?

*photos by Stock.XCHNG

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