Friday, August 27, 2010

One Question Friday













Every Friday I’m going to ask a question. The questions I choose might be ambiguous on purpose. The goal is to have you answer the question according to your beliefs, where you’re at in life or a circumstance that might have recently impacted you. The only thing I ask is that you provide an explanation for why you answered the way you did.







It's my hope to understand you better through this and also to gain a greater understanding of humanity and how people make decisions.






Talk
or
Listen?

*Congratulations to Jan Cline and A.L. (Amy) Sonnichsen! You were chosen by random selection and you both get a copy of Chasing Superwoman.
Please email your address to millerct1{at}cox{dot}net
**photos by flickr

26 comments:

  1. I'm definitely a talker, especially if there is that awkward silence thing happening. :O)

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  2. Talk until my jaws start causing me pain! But when I'm counseling a client, I listen saying very little.

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  3. I think I'm a talker, but I want to continuously grow to be a better listener. Funny, growing up I hardly talked at all because I was so shy. Not sure what happened. High school, I guess.

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  4. I'm a talking, but I know I need to shut up and listen.

    Congrats to the winners - Amy and Jan. Hope you like the book!

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  5. On my most current book, my heroine is all talk, talk, talk. If you can't tell, she has somewhat of a big mouth, or rather a smart mouth! The hero is a listener, probably because he's not much into talking.

    Me: I like to listen to others around (creates excellent fodder for new story ideas). Besides, I never feel like I have anything worthwhile to say (strange because I love to write stories). But talking aloud is so much more differnt than writing stuff down.

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  6. Oh, dear, I think I'm a talker most of the time, but I so love it when I manage to quiet down and listen.

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  7. Both. There's a time to talk and to listen. When something big has happened to a friend, either good or bad, it's time to listen. But if we haven't seen each other in ages and nothing special is going on--it's time to talk!

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  8. Listen. I'd much rather hear someone talk about themselves than have to talk about myself. lol

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  9. It depends. If I'm around people I don't know very well, listen. Around my friends and family, talk.

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  10. Listen, if there's anything truthful or personal being said. Talk, if I am bored by small talk and want to change the subject. :-)

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  11. In a new group I definitely listen more. Around family and close friends, I open up and talk. Great question.

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  12. Depends on my mood. One thing I will say though, is that I never regret listening. Sometimes I regret talking.

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  13. Listen. Because I regret talking more often.

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  14. I'll admit it...I like to talk. Sometimes I go home form being out with friends and think "Man, did I talk too much??? Did I let them talk enough???"

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  15. It depends on the relationship. There are some I don't care to share myself with and I only listen to them. It's not that I am stuck up, but I have a few 'takers' in my life that I have learned not to be vulnerable with. If it's my mom, husband, friends, then I love to talk and I have to make myself shut up so they feel comfortable to share pieces of themselves with me. :)

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  16. I'm a combo. It also depends on how well I know a person.

    Blessings,
    Susan :)

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  17. It takes discernment to know when to speak and when to listen in any given situation. As old as I am, I'm quite sure I haven't got it right yet. I find that most people in my social circles want to talk, maybe because I'm a listener in my position at work. A few intimate friends and family also allow me to talk and I enjoy and benefit from such meaningful interchange. I fondly recall a pastor who asked me questions and allowed me to unburden my heart - without so much as a look or comment of judgment, but words of support, assurance and encouragement. What a blessing!

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  18. Sigh. I talk too much.
    Thank goodness this week during our fiction track I shut up some and let our wonderful students teach us!!!

    Blessings!
    Patti

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  19. What?! I won?! I am SOOO excited. I'll email you, Wendy. Thank you! :)

    I hate to say it, but I talk. I wish I were better at listening. Actually, with other women I'm a better listener (though I talk, too). With my husband I'm a talker. Maybe it's because he's one of those strong silent types. ha ha.

    Amy

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  20. Congrats to Jan and Amy!

    Talk - sometimes when I need to get it out.
    Listen - when I know someone needs to talk.
    Somewhere in between with most of my relationships.
    Blessings,
    Karen

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  21. Listen. If for no other reason than I need to improve my recall skills. My memory tends to be unreliable for lack of my ability to pay attention, and my auditory learning is something I really need to work on.

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  22. I am a listener. Not sure if I am a good listener. I find in any conversation, until very comfortable with the people, I don't say much at all.

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  23. I sm a listener. I always seem to turn conversations back to the person I am with. It is more interesting to learn about others, I already know all about me and I don't find myself very interesting.

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  24. Listen. In most cases, you learn more that way.

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  25. Talk. Hopefully, only after I've listened. :D

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  26. Wendy:
    I usually follow the advice "God gave us two ears and one mouth. We are to use them in that proportion.

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