I’m not talking lampshade on your head, doing the moonwalk while singing “Party in the USA” in your best Miley Cyrus voice kind of life, but I will not stop you if this is the kind of life you want to bring to a party.
What I am referring to is the kind of soul who breathes life into a room because of their spirit of generosity, kindness, willingness to engage others in conversation, their bright outlook, thoughtful nature, and expression of selflessness.
Anyone can draw attention to themselves. But not everyone can attend a party and cause those they’ve interacted with to feel uplifted—to feel more vibrant and alive. It’s this kind of life I’m talking about.
And here are 8 ways to bring it:
Bring a thoughtful gift (for the host or hostess)
I remember when we first moved into our house a new friend brought me spices. You might be thinking what’s a stressed out newcomer going to do with spices in a house crammed with brown boxes (aka best toy in the world for toddlers). But that’s just it. Spices would have been the last thing I would have gone digging for. I know it wasn’t a party, but that friend brought a little life to me the day she gave me spices.
Pass along compliments
If a friend has shared something kind about another mutual friend take the time to pass along the kind word.
Demonstrate interest in others. There is no better way to get out of a pity party for yourself than to adjust your focus and become invested in others. And don’t pick favorites. Be open to talking with any and everyone. Great conversations might be waiting with those you least expect.
Introduce two friends who share a common bond
This is truly one of my favorite things to do. It’s so fun to watch a friendship develop in this scenario.
Offer to help
With the dishes. Passing out food. Collecting coats. Most hostesses are stress cases. An excellent way to bring life to a party is through helping when it is least expected. Trust me, it’s remembered.
Smile (and heck, laugh at yourself if you spill something on your dress or trip as you enter a home)
Woo hoo, you’re real. You’re likable. And smiles go a long way when it comes to stirring a room to life.
Respect party hours
Don’t show up too early or leave when your hostess has yawned (without covering her mouth) four times in a row, let you know it’s past her bedtime, and has slipped into her fuzzy Velveteen Rabbit slippers (do they make those? If so, I want them). One of the above should be enough of a clue.
Take the time to absorb
Take in your surroundings. Instigate conversations worth remembering. And register what others are saying to the point where you can refer to topics spoken about previously. Establish connections in conversation and with people.
Has anyone ever brought life to one of your parties by notably doing one of the above? Can you think of other ways to be the “life” of a party?
*photo by stockXCHNG