tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post862177021294768310..comments2024-03-28T02:13:42.262-07:00Comments on Wendy Paine Miller: I Wish You Had Never Been BornWendy Paine Millerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123871938365782734noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-6982676935147110962014-03-18T13:13:50.249-07:002014-03-18T13:13:50.249-07:00I happen to believe we all know someone who is imp...I happen to believe we all know someone who is impacted by mental illness, if not directly, because they love someone who has one.Wendy Paine Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15136235074351188350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-5214458377862731032014-03-18T13:13:03.386-07:002014-03-18T13:13:03.386-07:00Instability is a good word. Unpredictability is an...Instability is a good word. Unpredictability is another. I'm glad people are opening up here. I hope the conversations continue.Wendy Paine Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15136235074351188350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-57736327962727451722014-03-18T13:12:12.751-07:002014-03-18T13:12:12.751-07:00As I get older I'm beginning to understand som...As I get older I'm beginning to understand some things might not be able to be "fixed." At least not in the ways we imagine.Wendy Paine Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15136235074351188350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-71681601900470416122014-03-18T13:11:25.504-07:002014-03-18T13:11:25.504-07:00Powerful points here, Andrew. Thanks for much to t...Powerful points here, Andrew. Thanks for much to think through.Wendy Paine Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15136235074351188350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-30357691286662471022014-03-18T13:09:25.938-07:002014-03-18T13:09:25.938-07:00Exhausted every resource. Yep. I think my sister c...Exhausted every resource. Yep. I think my sister could have gone to college six times with the amount of money my folks invested in her. College. Attempts to preserve or rekindle sanity. Love and support are crucial. Wendy Paine Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15136235074351188350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-72389836223544312872014-03-18T13:07:40.808-07:002014-03-18T13:07:40.808-07:00Tenderize. Mash up. Sounds about right. Thanks for...Tenderize. Mash up. Sounds about right. Thanks for sharing this. Living with the trials certainly opened my eyes to some things I'm hoping society will start talking about more.Wendy Paine Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15136235074351188350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-91880141552979976302014-03-18T13:06:05.705-07:002014-03-18T13:06:05.705-07:00Linda, thanks for your comment. I'm sure you h...Linda, thanks for your comment. I'm sure you have countless stories relating to this.Wendy Paine Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15136235074351188350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-54114874724569376522014-03-18T13:04:20.599-07:002014-03-18T13:04:20.599-07:00Most welcome, Nancy. It's obviously something ...Most welcome, Nancy. It's obviously something I feel passionately about.Wendy Paine Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15136235074351188350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-79808825879132638782014-03-13T10:46:51.969-07:002014-03-13T10:46:51.969-07:00Wendy: Your blog entry makes me think about severa...Wendy: Your blog entry makes me think about several people in my past. One didn't believe she had anything wrong with her. Another,I saw her go from one level of being fine and searching for some help to a level where she chose to alienate those around her. This second woman married a friend's son. quietspirithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06086016141181470311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-2945984801514145712014-03-12T13:28:08.951-07:002014-03-12T13:28:08.951-07:00Thank you, Wendy. I can relate to some of the feel...Thank you, Wendy. I can relate to some of the feelings you expressed -- embarrassment, shame, anger. Witnessing how badly someone's instability affects the people I love is so very hard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-63528442532695088902014-03-12T10:31:07.783-07:002014-03-12T10:31:07.783-07:00How beautifully written and deeply thoughtful. Yes...How beautifully written and deeply thoughtful. Yes and yes! To have compassion instead of thinking we know best how to fix things. Thanks for sharing!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18433130291035286875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-43344369508717781372014-03-12T09:51:55.989-07:002014-03-12T09:51:55.989-07:00This is a very insightful and thought-provoking po...This is a very insightful and thought-provoking post; I'm glad you wrote it.<br /><br />My stepfather was bipolar, and I dealt with that through the last years of his life. It was a nightmare, and I would never want to revisit those years.<br /><br />But it wasn't about me. It must have been far worse for him, and though the demons in his head drove him to do some really cruel and horrible things, I simply can't imagine what it must have been like to be trapped on the inside of that.<br /><br />It does beg the question of how, exactly, does "fearfully and wonderfully made" come into all of this.I could not face Christianity at the time; being told that it was a result of his parents' or grandparents' sin was almost as bad as being told that God had a purpose for all of this.<br /><br />The truth is that it was a chemical imbalance caused by unknown factors in a world in which free will has been given rein. The Almighty chose free will as the basis for creation, and it's that which we must accept.<br /><br />His blessings are not an easy life, nor are they financial reward for being a good and faithful servant. His blessings are the strength to help the least of His children through their torment, and to have the intelligence to look for the best ways to deal with the situation as it unfolds.<br /><br />And "fearfully and wonderfully made"? Yes; deep within each of us - my stepfather, your sister, even Adam Lanza and Hitler - is a divine spark which can never be extinguished. It may gutter to an ember in this life, smothered by waves of evil and confusion, but at the end of all things I believe that God will pick through the debris to find that last glowing ember, and gently blow on it until - abracadabra! - out steps the person whom God intended and envisioned long before the womb.<br /><br />http://blessed-are-the-pure-of-heart.blogspot.com/2014/03/married-to-past-your-spouse-with-ptsd.htmlAndrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13230537202427640540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-12162237073281276622014-03-12T09:30:06.535-07:002014-03-12T09:30:06.535-07:00You and I have had many conversations lately, so y...You and I have had many conversations lately, so you know I can relate to this! While I appreciate people who want to "fix" the problems of this world w/suggestions about how to handle mental illness or Alzheimer's, I wish they would stop and think about what it assumes before they talk. It suggests the family doesn't care, hasn't listened to doctors, and have washed their hands of their loved one. Reality is, most people have exhausted every resource trying to help and cannot DO anything more to help. Mental illness, Alzheimer's and other brain-damage diseases are horrible and mostly incurable. Sometimes love and support is all we can do to help.Jill Kemererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07865493609868329393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-63246163864495403122014-03-12T08:06:12.148-07:002014-03-12T08:06:12.148-07:00Your truth-filled words strike deep, Wendy. Your p...Your truth-filled words strike deep, Wendy. Your personal experience has given you an insight into mental illness -- and God has used it to tenderize your heart. It's a joy to share this post today -- and a JOY to celebrate with you that I'm glad you were born, too. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15615035905042738222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-37346761791219534932014-03-12T05:51:36.052-07:002014-03-12T05:51:36.052-07:00Thank you Wendy for writing and sharing this. I am...Thank you Wendy for writing and sharing this. I am a child and grand child of pyschprenia and understand all top well about how dealing with this kind of illness is viewed in society.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-32579730940242309042014-03-12T05:51:17.517-07:002014-03-12T05:51:17.517-07:00Thank you for sharing your story. <>. You ...Thank you for sharing your story. <>. You are helping to continue the important conversation about mental illness. Thank you! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com