tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post1201002730639322233..comments2024-03-28T02:13:42.262-07:00Comments on Wendy Paine Miller: Another LandWendy Paine Millerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123871938365782734noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-30144174618140120202009-12-01T19:12:41.904-08:002009-12-01T19:12:41.904-08:00What a wonderful place to hang out! LOVE the music...What a wonderful place to hang out! LOVE the music! The metaphor of the foreign land juxtaposed with the in-laws' home!<br /><br />Wow! As an old dog learnin' new tricks blogger, this was quite a visit. Speaking of visits, my in-laws have never said a bad word to me or about me (to my knowledge). We threw a 60-year anniversary party last Labor Day. How long have I been married? 32 years. <br /><br />Yes, it is possible!!!!<br /><br />Drop by my new blog when you have time.<br />www.pattilacy.com/blog.<br /><br />PattiPatti Lacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00687666130404407814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-18591922937428014782009-12-01T17:56:25.245-08:002009-12-01T17:56:25.245-08:00Some days I think I have the in law thing down, so...Some days I think I have the in law thing down, some days I am not so sure! My prayer is to be a blessing and to grow through the challenges. Okay, so I am a work in progress:)Karen Langehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18177923284595298347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-17094523379605888012009-12-01T15:49:32.728-08:002009-12-01T15:49:32.728-08:00I love your post. I do think that in laws are dif...I love your post. I do think that in laws are different to everyone. When first visiting with in laws it's like being a foreign exchange student where the spouse feels comfortable doing anything and everything (as it's their old home) and you are sort of siting precariously out on a limb wondering if it's OK to get your own water or should you ask.<br /><br />I have had to deal with some pretty horrible comments from my in laws only to realize that she was just testing me to see if I was good enough for her son. <br /><br />I also had to endure the loss of my sister in law, and now feel like I am sort of my mother other daughter not that I could ever dream of filling my sister in laws shoes but I can accompany her to a shopping trip or what not. I am grateful that I have been able to be their for my mother in law and I think that we bother are helping each other heal which also in turn is building a closer and stronger relationship.<br />As far as the other way around I luck out with my husband as he gets along wonderfully with my mother and step father. They are all like great friends.Doodleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05584897854398507503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-34921558135767814892009-12-01T11:25:53.834-08:002009-12-01T11:25:53.834-08:00After 32 years of marriage-- I still wonder if I u...After 32 years of marriage-- I still wonder if I understand my in-laws but have managed to live with them and them with me:) Glad you had a safe trip back!Terri Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07771622379178654235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-34203266573706109302009-12-01T05:59:39.718-08:002009-12-01T05:59:39.718-08:00Oh. My. Goodness. My word verification on the abov...Oh. My. Goodness. My word verification on the above post was "humbly." Does this not fit in with your post on trying to understand in-laws? LOL!!!Jeanette Levelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12898750484193832082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-9729330466433717642009-12-01T05:58:25.074-08:002009-12-01T05:58:25.074-08:00Oh, dear. We've been in each other's famil...Oh, dear. We've been in each other's families for almost 35 years, and still shake our heads, saying, "Help me understand why..."<br /><br />Glad you got a break, Wendy! Welcome home, <br /><br />Jen<br />Audience of ONEJeanette Levelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12898750484193832082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-65283351063799531912009-11-30T23:44:49.159-08:002009-11-30T23:44:49.159-08:00After 20 years, I've mostly got the in-law cul...After 20 years, I've mostly got the in-law culture down. It was, curiously, an easier thing when my gruff father-in-law was still around. I miss him, but am blessed by a mother-in-law who is truly my mom away from home.<br /><br />This is very sweet. Thanks Wendy!Anne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-89443847965711038572009-11-30T20:05:29.297-08:002009-11-30T20:05:29.297-08:00I love my in-laws... but I"m still learning. ...I love my in-laws... but I"m still learning. And my husband is still learning about mine too. Ya know, sometimes ya just gotta shrug and say, "That's just how they are" and laugh at 'em.Krista Phillipshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10772828583379163612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-78866701726828839032009-11-30T15:56:20.677-08:002009-11-30T15:56:20.677-08:00What a wonderful post, Wendy. I remember the first...What a wonderful post, Wendy. I remember the first time I stepped into my in-laws house. Noise. Laughter. Smells of rich, plentiful food. People crammed wall to wall. I was overwhelmed, from a small family of formal, though polite, manners. My husband's family is wonderful, but boisterous. What a difference it was! But they took me in and call me their own. I am SO blessed.<br /><br />Have a wonderful Monday evening!Gwen Stewarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00062502118990955905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-60376269753341101632009-11-30T15:25:04.059-08:002009-11-30T15:25:04.059-08:00After five and a half years, I *think* I'm get...After five and a half years, I *think* I'm getting more used to the social code of the inlaws. It's so crazy how different, yet so similar, our inlaws can be at times.<br /><br />Glad you're back, WEndy! I missed reading your blog!Katie Gansherthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09150375338556869812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-90225283959474467842009-11-30T13:27:43.672-08:002009-11-30T13:27:43.672-08:00Wonderful husband Wendy! Anyone that survives the ...Wonderful husband Wendy! Anyone that survives the 'foreign country' has indeed conquered the world! :)Ellie Kingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14711249217634726986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-65212997120658664382009-11-30T11:50:53.586-08:002009-11-30T11:50:53.586-08:00I've been married since forever and I'm pr...I've been married since forever and I'm pretty sure the only way to master this language is to have Jesus as your translator. Serious.Tanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10518718614911804428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-36193476428321408112009-11-30T11:41:39.309-08:002009-11-30T11:41:39.309-08:00I think I've mastered the language of my MIL, ...I think I've mastered the language of my MIL, and I have a great relationship with her. I don't see his father enough for me to know how to deal with him (they're divorced, and there's some drama there).Beth Mannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14279427592537427039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-7446380085086992072009-11-30T11:11:55.266-08:002009-11-30T11:11:55.266-08:00I thank God I have wonderful in laws, that share a...I thank God I have wonderful in laws, that share a great deal of the same specifics that my family does. Both families even attend the same church.<br /><br />I have noticed a greater openness with my husband's side of the family. They don't seem to tip toe as much around issues as we did growing up. I love the freeing feeling of being me with them.Tamika:https://www.blogger.com/profile/04874834971492028558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-67602501622033880352009-11-30T11:02:24.849-08:002009-11-30T11:02:24.849-08:00Ha! You're so witty! So glad you had a wonderf...Ha! You're so witty! So glad you had a wonderful time! I find that the travel time with children is really difficult--in a van for two days equals lots of bickering! :-) Hope you had the chance to spend time with your Dad and enjoy being together as a family. Blessings to you, Wendy.Jody Hedlundhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424307540530719614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-18197249708904356882009-11-30T10:59:25.220-08:002009-11-30T10:59:25.220-08:00It's a dance and balancing act at times. A lo...It's a dance and balancing act at times. A lot of it has to do with personalities, boundaries and grace. :O)<br /><br />Hope to see you over at my new blog home www.dianeestrella.comDianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07604687906788800639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-66858105086950833262009-11-30T10:32:46.185-08:002009-11-30T10:32:46.185-08:00This is so true! Great Post!This is so true! Great Post!Cassandra Frearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16564236561567663914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-85613917619481065982009-11-30T10:18:46.253-08:002009-11-30T10:18:46.253-08:00I have wonderful in-laws and I'm really thankf...I have wonderful in-laws and I'm really thankful for them. They're different than my family though. My transition to hubby's family was easy because of how they operate. His to mine... a little rougher, poor guy. :-)<br /><br />I'm glad you had a good time!Jessica Nelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12365768876905444157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-91546221565962762722009-11-30T09:01:39.257-08:002009-11-30T09:01:39.257-08:00Wendy, I am so glad you're back. And I'm g...Wendy, I am so glad you're back. And I'm glad you had a great and refreshing time away from blogging.<br /><br />It was difficult with my in-laws for many years but now we are very close and understand each other very well. They actually introduced me to "a whole new world" that was a great blessing.Cindy R. Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13488732331021750408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-20344721653192971402009-11-30T08:57:09.124-08:002009-11-30T08:57:09.124-08:00Some in-laws inhabit countries in which the langua...Some in-laws inhabit countries in which the language and customs are more familiar. We could say some in-laws are like English cousins, who speak the same language and share some of the same cultural assumptions. Blessed are those with English in-laws. Other in-laws live in "China." They say that if you do not learn to speak Chinese at a young age, you will NEVER become fluent. Some of us will never become fluent in our in-laws' language or customs, but we strive for peaceful co-existence. :-)Rosslyn Elliotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11304732306399786236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-49569311672774433182009-11-30T08:56:32.500-08:002009-11-30T08:56:32.500-08:00We just got back from a week with my husband's...We just got back from a week with my husband's family so I HEAR YOU on this one :) I love his family and I've been a part of it for 7 1/2 years so I'm getting used to it, but I still feel like a stranger sometimes. They are wonderful though. Glad you had a great holiday! I'm so jealous of your trip to Disney World! FUN!Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00861022355718378425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-43588662000462518512009-11-30T08:19:48.655-08:002009-11-30T08:19:48.655-08:00I'm still learning, but the language or people...I'm still learning, but the language or people and relationships is a wonderful one to have. :D<br /><br />Welcome back! Missed you. :DDanyelle L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10366276085080565870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-48837714183724681352009-11-30T07:59:53.442-08:002009-11-30T07:59:53.442-08:00There really is nothing like sleeping in your own ...There really is nothing like sleeping in your own bed after you've been away.<br /><br />Sounds like a good idea for a book.Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00685341739870191402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-77461761106162101952009-11-30T07:51:32.970-08:002009-11-30T07:51:32.970-08:00It sounds like a wonderful trip, all that hubbub f...It sounds like a wonderful trip, all that hubbub for your hubby aside. ;)<br /><br />My mother-in-law has already passed on, and there are times I wish she were here. Things are strained with my father-in-law, but there's still love, still family and a reason to be together. Visits are simple, civil, and effective. I'm just thankful for my own parents, who are one of my biggest blessings.Janna Leadbetterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06339705935553160673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-91619058872894494.post-72654058172880213702009-11-30T07:50:29.586-08:002009-11-30T07:50:29.586-08:00I'm glad you had a nice break. I did too, but...I'm glad you had a nice break. I did too, but I'm so glad to be back. As far as my inlaws go, well, yes, definitely foreign territory there!Susan R. Millshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09578747592345750650noreply@blogger.com